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Parenting, cause & effects

There are and always will be a cause and effect to everything. This is something that we can always rely on to be true no matter the situation but especially with behaviors or attitudes. I heard something similar to this a lot when I was younger. Growing up it was almost on cue that a classmate or sibling would ask "do I have to do that?". My dad would almost always answer with "No, You do not have to do anything in this life, except accept the consequences ." I quickly picked up that consequences are the effect of what we do or do not do. Lately I have added that the effect could also be from receiving what we need versus our needs not being met. Well I think that leads us perfectly into what we are talking about today. That being that it is part of an adult's responsibility to find the cause behind a child's behaviors and it is our responsibility to teach, and learn if we haven't yet, how to respond. Recently I was able to learn about an equation th

the Importance of Fathers

You all probably have heard me say it before but my dad means the world to me. So I would like to spend today talking about the importance of dads, fathers, papa, or whatever your all call that amazing male role model in your life! I personally have had bad days and good days, and I think many if not all of you are in the same or similar boat, but it never mattered because I knew and still know that my dad would and will be there for me, to tell me I was and am strong enough to make it though whatever it was or is. I hope to be able to show my passion and belief that having a present and interactive father can and does make a very large and positive impact on a child's life. Something that I really value from my childhood was my time with my dad. The majority of our time spent together was always him, my siblings, and I working side by side and very little talking. It was hard work usually washing calves or fixing fence that the elk blew through but I was able to watch him do som

Communication and the Keys to be better 06/24/2023

This week we are going to talk about communication and the lack of communication. Part of what we will talk about is how to effectively communicate and the importance of tone of voice and non-verbal cues. We will also talk about the five secrets of communication. Well, now that we have the quick break down explained we should just hop right into our deep dive. When we think of a conversation our first thought is two people responding with words or a text of words to something the other person said. But have you ever just been sitting at a table or a bench and had someone walk up and ask if you are doing okay or if they could help in any way, I have and it kind of surprised me but it also helped me a lot. This was probably a reacting to non-verbal cues that they were picking up on. I had been really struggling and a lot was going on in my life and even though I though I was hiding it all and had not said anything, a friend walking by noticed that something was off and sat down to talk

The total experience! 06/17/2023

This week I want to talk about crises and about the total experience. In our life time we will have many events that can be classified as a crises. Whether it is financial, physical or emotional these crises play a big role in our lives. There will be crises and that is just something we can not stop and we can not choose them. The part that we can control however is our resources to some extent, our responses and our cognition. Together these pieces will be added up and we will get our total experience. As always lets jump in and breakdown this weeks topic so that we can better understand what is going on. We have the resources, the response and our cognition. Then we will talk about the equation as a whole. Lets start with breaking these down a little bit more. Diving deeper into what resources we can control and what resources are important. Some of the first things we think of when we hear resources are money and food. Or at least those were the first ones I thought of, I mean th

Levels of infidelity 06/10/2023

Did you know that there are 4 levels or types of infidelity? Two of these types of infidelity require a partner in crime of sorts. The other two are considered infidelity because of the secrets and deception that form from them. They are more sociological than they are physical. Lets break these down so that we can better understand what we are dealing with and so that we can evaluate ourselves. When you hear infidelity you probably think sexual infidelity, such as cheating or sleeping with someone other than your spouse or significant other. But did you know that sexual infidelity is not the most common type of infidelity. The scriptures call sexual sin second only to murder, so it makes sense that it wouldn't be the most common, people think that as long as they don't sleep with someone else or kiss another they are ok, but that is far from the truth. The most common infidelity is emotional infidelity. It's when commitment changes to another person because of an emotio

Go on dates, not just hang outs

Are we dating or hanging out? Are we trying to find a husband or a friend? Some will argue that we want our husband or significant other to be our friend, and we do in a way, but there needs to be more. We will not find our husband by simply hanging out with someone until curfew or until we have to clock into work. Dating is a huge indicator about how life will be after marriage and can often foretell the problems that will be found ten years down the road. When we are dating we form habits for our future. These habits should be guided by the three P's that summarize the role of the man in the relationship and by the divine role given to women. The three P's are preside, protect, and provide meaning that the dates should give the guy opportunities to fulfill all three of these areas. An example of presiding in a date setting is planning. A guy should be considerate of what the girl is interested in. Does he give her a heads-up of what the plan will be? Does he just t